Hi Anne, My daughter is a very intelligent young lady (21 yrs old) and will be graduating with her bachelors soon. Her choice in boyfriends however has fallen into the same category twice now which alarms me. This second one is behaving in the same manner the first one did, taking control of her life in general. She no longer desires to spend with me but prefers the company of his family, phone calls are strained and anxiety provoking as well for me lately and for some reason the men she picks are very immature for their age. Every time she gets into a relationship I am put to the curb, when I complained and told her our relationship could not go on like this she decided to ignore me, doesnt return emails, calls, etc. Even the things she says are not words she would normally use, they sound like things he says, and they are hurtful. I am at a loss, but moreso I am concerned that she could marry this man and ruin her life in the future.
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